“Students Nail Polish Date Rape Drug Detector”

Ankesh Madan, Stephen Gray, Tasso Von Windheim and Tyler Confrey-Maloney from North Carolina State University, invented a nail polish that detects common date rape drugs. If you dip your finger in your drink and the nail polish change color, something is wrong with your drink. Trinbago women, you know you used to stick your finger in your drink to stir it. You better get this nail polish and start back stirring your drink with your finger.

Although there are lots of disagreements about the nail polish drug detector, I say buy it, polish your nails it may save you from a rapist.

Enjoy your day and be safe…

A rattlesnake loose in the living room tends to end all discussion of animal rights. ― Lance Morrow

“Happy Saturday to you and yours”

Brooklyn, New York is hot this weekend. West Idians are going to be out in numbers for the Carnival festivities leading up to the West Indian Parade on Monday. Remember not to DRINK and DRIVE, and avoid ROAD RAGE.. Enjoy and be safe.

“A Bol’ Face Man”

Have you ever sat in a taxi—(Livery-cab) and a male passenger comes in the taxi, he sits next to you then he puts his hand on the top of the seat over your shoulder. Every time the taxi turns a corner or drops down in a pothole his hand would drop on your shoulder. When this happens to me, I would immediately tell him to move his hand. In most cases they did, but there was this one occasion when I was a young girl in Trinbago, I asked a man to move his hand and he steups—(sucks teeth).

“You don’t know me. Move yuh damn hand!”

“I want to be comfortable!” He said.

“And make me uncomfortable! You should ah stay home. Move you blasted hand! Shit!”

“I am ah big man and you are ah little girl and you talking to me like that?”

“Then act like a big man and stop being so bol’ face—(Wrong and strong, unreasonable).  Every time the car makes a turn, your damn hand is touching me.”

“You really brave, oui,” He said as he moved his hand, but he was looking at me angrily.

“Move your hand man. The girl is right,” The taxi driver said.

I was looking at him seriously and for a moment the staring match went on then he turned his head.

“Hmm,” I said shaking my head… 

LORD where did the summer holiday go? Today is the first day of school for my daughter. I hope all the children who were not successful in their exams are given another chance of a career. Many of them maybe enthusiastic about Electrical, Plumbing, Carpentry, Masonry, Mechanics, Lock Repair, Chef, Baker, Artist, etcetera. Get them involved.

“As the Old Folks in Trinbago used to say, “He getting on like he have ah feather in he cap oui.”

One flaw in some men; talking about women they have been with. They act as though it is a feather in their cap to say out loud the name of the woman/women they had sex with.

Which woman wants to hear her name being shouted out about a sexual escapade?

Another saying of Trinbago Old Folks is, “Eat all, drink all, but doh talk all".

When a man meets a woman and he starts talking to her, he should not make his sex life a top priority to woo her. She might give him a chance, but eventually she would not trust him. There is a time and place for everything. A still tongue keeps a wise head.

Enjoy your day and be safe.

“Young Gunslingers”

A shooting instructor in White Hills, Arizona was accidentally shot and killed by a 9-year-old girl from New Jersey, who was on vacation there. He was teaching her how to shoot an Uzi. When she pulled the trigger and the kickback caused the gun to lurch over her head, the instructor was hit in his head by a bullet.

8 years old and up with parental supervision is the established age at most shooting ranges. Tell me why the hell these young children need to be gunslingers? 

“The brain never sleeps. When does the internet go to sleep? NEVER! It is the brain that runs the world!”

I remember the only thing we had to take pictures with was cameras and that was a good thing yet it used to be a bad thing at times. Many women were taken out in the nude by their so called boyfriend/man. These so called men used to hand out the pictures to their friends and then the shoo-shooing —gossip started. The woman in the picture is going to be lambasted, but it would be contained to a certain crowd of people. Today all they have to do is send it over the internet and the naked you is going to be a worldwide phenomenon.

My reason for talking about this is because my son phone just started making strange sounds. When he checked it he was getting text after text from his friends asking if he checked the text from another friend. When he checked it, it was nude pictures of a woman the guy was dating. His friends were saying this and that about the woman. I walked by his bedroom and I could hear the MC and the WTF flying out of his mouth.

“We all decided, no cussing!” I said.

“Yeah I know, but I deserved to cuss about the message I got. I haven’t spoken to this dude in a long time because of all the shit he talks about women. It is not surprising that he sent us private pictures of his woman. Mom I wouldn’t even show them to you. I deleted them.”

“Humans! Oh gosh buy me ah dog, oui.” I said…

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your path straight. Prov. 3:5-6

A blessed safe day to you and yours.

“Quotes I like”

Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

Money is our madness, our vast collective madness. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering to get to it... and the journey is always towards the other soul. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

In every living thing there is the desire for love. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

There is only one thing that a man really wants to do, all his life; and that is, to find his way to his God, his Morning Star, salute his fellow man, and enjoy the woman who has come the long way with him. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

The world of men is dreaming, it has gone mad in its sleep, and a snake is strangling it, but it can't wake up. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

The only justice is to follow the sincere intuition of the soul, angry or gentle. Anger is just, and pity is just, but judgement is never just. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

It is quite true, as some poets said, that the God who created man must have had a sinister sense of humor, creating him a reasonable being, yet forcing him to take this ridiculous posture, and driving him with blind craving for this ridiculous performance. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

The mind can assert anything and pretend it has proved it. My beliefs I test on my body, on my intuitional consciousness, and when I get a response there, then I accept. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

I can never decide whether my dreams are the result of my thoughts, or my thoughts the result of my dreams. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

  

Be a good animal, true to your animal instincts. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

If a woman hasn't got a tiny streak of harlot in her, she's a dry stick as a rule. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

I want to live my life so that my nights are not full of regrets. — D.H. Lawrence (1885-1930)

Good morning to you and yours. I wish today is a better day for all of you than yesterday. Enjoy your day and be safe.

My daughter (A senior in high school) said on Friday a woman on the bus said to her, “School is opening soon so you are excited about Junior High?” She told the woman yes, she was.

“You told her yes?” I asked.

“Yeah, that lady was talking in the high pitched voice older people use to talk to children. You know the excited voice to ask a child a question so I did not want to spoil her day. Hysterical…

Forming an opinion when you only heard one side of the story keeps you away from the truth. Enjoy your day and be safe.

As the old folks used to say, “You drinking tea for other people fever.” Sometimes after you drink the tea you realize that the person deserved the fever oui.

“Am I the only one who eats Peanut Butter with butter or with cheese?”

My family says that I am always dramatic in everything that I do even in eating and I had to hear the speech as usual. “Peanut butter is the best when it is eaten by itself, with jelly, or with banana, Not with butter or cheese. Mom something is wrong with you.”

Does anyone else eat Peanut butter with butter or with cheese?

A blessed safe day to you and yours.

“Don’t Poke Me”

On Facebook you could poke your friends. I always remember when I was a child some of the old people in the neighborhood, used to stick their index finger in my side to tickle me. The finger in the side is a poke and I did not like it. I just disliked being tickled. To all the pokers out there speak to me. I’m not a beast, creature, animal, being, living thing, monster, fiend, brute, or swine so stop poking me.  

Wrong things cannot be dismissed by a song…

“Treat Your Body Well”

 I had to post this again because I see so many women with knee braces etc. In 2013, I was a woman walking around with a knee brace. I really do not know why they are wearing knee braces, but I know that my weight was the culprit in my knee story. Although it was a slow process I lost the 40 pounds that I had to get rid of.

I cut down on salt, sugar, flour. I eat Crix, peas, beans, eggs, vegetables, meat, fish, Green figs —(banana).  Sometimes I eat yam and potatoes. I drink water, coconut water, Lucozade, Lipton Tea and Honey Ginger Tea. Everyday, I went into the bathroom, close the door and jog on the spot for an hour. Next I would lie on the floor and do Pilates then I use my son’s door frame pull up bar. I cannot pull myself up on the bar so I would stand on the floor, hold the bar and bend my knees stretching my arms. Now I have a treadmill which I use everyday, but I still jog in the bathroom etc. Think about your body and love it. As we get older, all kinds of pains and illnesses attack our body. Watch what you eat and exercise.

Enjoy your day and be safe…

I could complain about how my day started and how it is progressing, but all I am going to say is, “To God be the glory, great things he has done.” A blessed safe day to you and yours.

“On A Personal Note — Pay attention to your daughter/s!”

One day in my daughter’s last year of junior high, she came home from school and she said, “Mom I am getting fat.”

“What!?” was my first response because she is X-small in size. I stopped what I was doing and looked at her. At that moment she looked smaller than X-small. “Why did you say that you are getting fat?” I asked.

“When I look in the mirror I see how fat I am.”

“You are not fat,” I said, but I was concerned and I decided to pay attention to her. That day I had cooked one of her favorite meals —stew chicken, red beans, basmati rice and salad. When I dished out her food she looked at it and frowned as she said, “I am not hungry.”

“What did you eat?”

“The bagel and cream cheese I took to school for lunch.”

“It is now 4:00 o’clock so lunch was 5 hours ago.”

“Mom, I am not hungry!”

“You are going to eat some of the food that is on the table so sit and eat.”

She sat down and I did as well. I watch my daughter pick up the fork and struggle to eat the food. It hurt to see the moments when she was acting as though she was going to vomit. I would tell her to stop and take deep breaths. She ate four spoonfuls of food and then I told her to stop, but I watched her all evening, making sure she did not go to the bathroom to vomit. Later that night I made her a cup of hot chocolate and I gave her 6 Crix biscuits with cheese, which is another of her favorite meal, but it was a struggle for her to eat. She drank half of the hot chocolate and ate three Crix biscuits with cheese. Again I kept an eye on her all night, even when she was sleeping. I was upset with myself because I did not notice that this was going on with her. The next morning we went to the doctor. When the doctor weighed her she had lost 12 pounds from the last time she was at the office. The doctor asked her what was going on. I listened to my daughter try to convince her doctor that she was fat.

“You have been coming to me since you were a baby and you have never been fat,” Her doctor said, then she gave her a real good talk and the final thing she said to her was, “I am giving you one month to put on 5 pounds. If you don’t, I am going to admit you to the hospital. That was the turning point. She is still small in size, but eating is not a problem anymore. Pay attention to your daughter/s…

“We live in a magnificent world”

Every cloud has a silver lining. I do not agree with that statement because every morning as I stand in my kitchen, and I look at the sky as the sun comes up, there is a brilliant gold lining on the clouds that I see. On evenings as I sit in my living room and the sun sets, every cloud that I see has a gold lining. Even if the gold lining is for a moment, every cloud doesn’t have a silver lining. I love the sun and how radiant it makes the area as it ascend and descend.

A wonderful safe day to you and yours.

“Kindness”

We really don’t know where our help will come from.

Be loving. Be kind. Just be tender.

As the old folks in Trinbago used to say, “Yuh see today. Yuh nuh see tomorrow.”

We really don’t know what tomorrow will bring so be kind. In a discussion many believed that hell was hot, but my son maintains that it is freezing. Hot or cold it really doesn’t matter to me because I am not going.

I hope goodness and kindness comes into your space today. Thank God!

For all that this day brings into my space. I am just going to say. Thank you God for everything!

A wonderful safe day to you and yours…

“Mothers, Fathers, Caregivers this is just a reminder”

16 TIPS TO HELP YOUR CHILD ENJOY READING.

1. Ask him/her the genre that they like and buy/or get a book from the library.

2. The book, must not be, more than 100 pages.

3. Read everyday.

4. Read aloud.

5. During your reading time, DON’T ANSWER THE TELEPHONE. THE TELEVISION AND THE RADIO MUST BE TURNED OFF.

6. If there are other children in the home, let them all sit and listen to the story.

7. Let your child know that you will be reading together.

8. You start reading first.

9. It does not matter what the story is about – you could make it exciting and interesting by the tone of your voice and also by your actions.

10. Read the first page then ask your child to read aloud the second page.

11. Do not stop your child while he/she is reading. Let him/her continue reading.

12. When your child asks you to stop reading, you may do so, but if you feel you should continue, say to him/her. “I like this story. May I read a little more?” In most cases they would say yes. Read a little more then tell your child you would continue the story the next day.

13.  Ask your child his/her opinion of the story. This is your moment to spend quality time together, to share thoughts, ideas and experiences with each other.

14. If your child needs to point at the words in the book to read, it’s okay to let him/her do that.

15.  If you are tired say to your child. “I am tired, but I want to hear the story. Can you please read to me? Let him/her know that you truly want to hear the story.

16.  Read anywhere. WHILE YOU ARE PREPARING DINNER, YOUR CHILD CAN STAND OR SIT IN THE KITCHEN AND READ TO YOU. READ ON THE BUS, READ ON THE TRAIN, READ IN THE PARK, READ IN THE DOCTOR’S WAITING ROOM, ON YOUR BED, FIND THE MOST COMFORTABLE SPOT AND READ! READ! READ! By A Valentine Joseph

“Summer is ending and fall is on it’s way.

“Did you ever read the book called The Giver By Lois Lowry?” 

School started for some children and is starting in New York soon. I remember since my children were in Pre-K, they would read a book then say, “Mom you have to read this book.” In most cases I would be standing in line at the bank reading a children’s book. My children are 17 and 23, and they still ask me to read some of the books that they are reading. I don’t like horror books, but I read them then I would always comment. They finally stopped insisting that I read the horror books. Out of all their books I read, The Giver was the most upsetting for me. I did not like that book, now there is a movie. I am not going to be looking at it, but my children said that they have to look at it just to see if they captured the essence of it.

Enjoy your day and be safe…

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”  Bob Marley (1945-1981)

Depression… hmm. You would be surprised to know who is suffering from it.

Positive vibrations for you and yours today and always. A blessed safe day to you all.

“As the old folks in Trinbago used to say; “Mout’ open ‘tory jump out.”

Jane knew that someone was disgracing her on social network so she set out to find out who the culprit was. One day she was conversing with her best friend, Linda and she said, “Someone is discrediting me on social network. I don’t know why but when I find out who the person is I am going to expose them and trash them.”

Linda said, “How do you know someone is doing that?”

“I know by the actions of some of my friends so I questioned a few of them and they said that they do not want to get into any squabbles. I found it was weird, but it made me think and wonder why, so I am on a mission to get to the root of it although I know that you cannot recover from a lie.”

Linda got very quiet and hardly spoke then Jane ended the conversation not thinking anything amiss. Days later while they were conversing, Linda said, “I was upset that you think that I am discrediting you, and I told my father that you want to trash me on social network.”

“What!” Jane exclaimed flabbergasted.

“Yes I told him that and he said that you are wrong! I am not like that!” Linda said and she hung up the phone.

“Oh gosh. Mout’ open ‘tory jump out — LORD I did not have to work hard to get the full story. Hysterical…

The lies they tell are the secrets they hold and the deceit they spit out of their mouth is the jealousy they feed on.

Happy Sunday to you and yours. Enjoy and be safe.

It is a beautiful Saturday morning. The sun is shining brightly, dusting of clouds in the blue sky, the leaves on the trees are green, orange, brown and a reddish brow. Looks lovely, but it is only a reminder of what is coming next. I am not looking forward to it, but I intend to go with the flow of white when it hits the area. It’s not the end of the world. Life goes on. Enjoy your day and be safe.

“Don't be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.” ― Rumi (1207-1273)

“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.” ― Rumi (1207-1273)

“Oh Drama”

When my son and daughter are out you could call their phone until thy kingdom come they would not answer, it goes straight to voice mail. My son’s voice mail response, “Hello… then a long pause so you start talking and then you hear, “Please leave a message.” My daughter’s voice mail is always full. When you eventually get her she always have a great excuse, “My ringer was not on. I don’t like taking out my phone on the streets. I was in a class.” The both of them pisses us off. So I am getting the new application— Ignore No More. I can turn off their phones and they will have to call me to get the password. They can still call 911 and other selected numbers I decided on. This is the first time I am going to be a mean mother and I love it.

Enjoy your day and be safe…

“Have you seen, What Dreams May Come?”

It is one of my favorite Robin Williams movies. In the movie Robin and his wife decided not to divorce, he gets killed in a car crash, but is unaware that he is dead, he lingers on earth, sees how hard it is for his wife to cope with his death and tries to communicate with her. When he realizes that his attempts cause her more sorrow he moves on. His wife commits suicide and he learns that all who commit suicide go to hell. This was the most beautiful, thrilling, love stories I have ever seen. You should see it. After a movie like this it was sad to hear that Robin William killed himself… 

“Negative Off-putting Downbeat People”

If I write about all the negative words, statements that have been thrown at me and are still being thrown, I would have written a book of  more than a thousand pages. In the earlier years I used to be upset. One day my father said to me, “Not everybody who meets you will like you, you are not going to like everybody you meet and that is life, do not get a sleepless night over it.”

I took those words and I live by them. I don’t care who the culprit is, I don’t get a sleepless night over them.

“Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death. ― Rumi (1207-1273)

A blessed safe day to you and yours.

“You were born with wings, why prefer to crawl through life?” ― Rumi (1207-1273)

You suppose you are the trouble, but you are the cure.
You suppose that you are the lock on the door, but you are the key that opens it.
It's too bad that you want to be someone else. You don't see your own face, your own beauty. Yet, no face is more beautiful than yours. ― Rumi (1207-1273) .” 

“Good Morning. Enjoy your day and be safe.”

The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you. Don’t go back to sleep!

You must ask for what you really want. Don’t go back to sleep! ―Rumi (1207-1273)

“There is no law that says you have to answer”

Have you ever experienced this? The phone rings, you know the number, you know how you would feel after the conversation, but you feel obligated to answer because the person on the other end is your mother, father, brother, sister, husband, wife or friend. After the conversation feelings of depression, sadness, despair, gloominess, misery, hopelessness, melancholy or dejection covers your heart and soul. Remember God doesn’t want you to feel this way so when the phone rings and you see the number, do not pick up. Breathe and walk away. If you answer, listen and the moment they start with their negativity, put the phone down and do something that pleases your heart. A few minutes later, pick up the phone and if they say to you, “I am speaking and you are not saying anything.” Say to them, “You have a lot to get off of your chest so don’t worry, I’m listening.” Then put down the phone.  Pick it up again in a few minutes and say, “I’m right here.” Eventually when they realize that they are doing all the talking, they would end the conversation. I am sure you would be smiling after that moment. Enjoy your day and be safe…

“A blessed safe week to you and yours”

As you head out be aware of your surroundings. Pay attention to that inkling feeling in you that say something is amiss. Do not wait until something happen to say I had a hunch, but I shook it off. I believe that intuition~ perception~ insight~ sixth sense~ suspicion is God saying I am here pay attention. Something is wrong.

“Another day!. Another story!”

It is definitely not like yesterday. You are seeing another day and you will have another story. If your day is not good and you feel as though it is the end of the world, I am sending you a wave. 

Do you know who started with the waving thing… God did.

Fear not! Stand your ground and you will see the victory the LORD will win for you today. The LORD himself will fight for you, you only have to keep still.

Enjoy your day and be safe…

Touch tenderly then play. It’s amazing. That’s love.

“Enjoying Life”

Yesterday I said that my children are enjoying life. It was ten in the morning and they were still sleeping. That statement turned out to be true. When my son got up he said, “Morning mom, how was your night?”

I said, “Great. How was yours?”

“I had a dream about a slug. It was very big and it ate humans and then it turn into them, after a while it turned back to a slug then it would continue eating,” he said looking at me with a smile on his face

I am guaranteed to get a hysterical moment from my family… Oui.

“Happy Saturday to you and yours. Enjoy and be safe.”

Keeping your thoughts on the mistakes of the past guarantees that you’ll continue manifesting them in the present! — Being in Balance, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

“Mad, foolish, crazy, barmy, nutty, nuts, round the bend, mentally disturb”

If our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit then it must be a part of heaven.

When I was a child I used to laugh when I saw some people dressed in lewd, undignified and humiliating ways… exposing heaven.

When I was a teenager, I was out shopping with my favorite sister Claudette. A woman walked by us and she was dressed in a very bad way, exposing heaven. I started to laugh and Claudette looked at me seriously. I kept laughing and wondered how she could not see how funny the lady looked.

“Oh LORD. Stop laughing. It is not funny. That woman must be mad to leave her home dressed like that. We don’t know the circumstances of anyone’s demeanor, so you must not laugh at people. Anything can happen to anyone of us in a flash so that could be me our you one day,” Claudette said. I stopped laughing and I felt embarrassed, but I learnt a lesson… 

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own. 1 Cor. 6:19

“A blessed safe day to you and yours”

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the way of childhood behind me. 1 Cor. 13:11

“Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.” ― St. Catherine of Siena (1347-1380)

“Pray, Hope, and Don’t Worry” ― St. Pio of Pietrelcino (1887-1968)

Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Have a wonderful safe day.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

John 15:7 If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.

I believe that you have to let some people stew in their own sauce. Do not give them the luxury of a response. Enjoy your day and be safe…

“Scary Times”

So much is going on in the world. If you listen to the news, you would not leave your home. All over the world, we are living in scary times. Gone were the days when we only had to worry about the folklore characters; Lugarhoos –Werewolf, Douen –Spirit, La diablesse –Witch, etc., Today man is the culprit of the scary times. He is driven by Lies, greed, deceit and jealousy. Gun in hand and he is on the move... No compassion. LORD have mercy…

I believe when you laugh you are experiencing a piece of heaven. I wish you lots of laughable moments.

May the LORD answer you when you are in distress; may the name of the God of Jacob defend you! May He send you help from the sanctuary and grant you support from Zion. May He remember all your sacrifices and graciously accept your offerings. May He give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed... Ps 20:1-4

“Live your life”

It is a beautiful Friday morning the first day of August, 2014. When I used to sit outside the home I grew up in, thoughts of growing old was never on my mind. Today I am still the same way. I am getting older and still living one day at a time enjoying life. Like I say to my family… “Do not cry over spilled milk, do not worry about the things you cannot change, do not hold on to the negative, hold on to the positive, live your life and love it…