“To Make It Last”

Have a good sense of humor. Listen to each other. Know when to shut up. Ignore the unfounded information from the naysayer. Be there in the moment of sickness. Be kind and loving.

I wish you love, joy, peace and lots of laughable moments. 

“The Sweet Taste Of Heaven”

You co-join and you shared intimate moments. Those sweet tender moments gave you the most loving gentle being/s —A child or children. For reasons beyond your control the relationship ended so you make your child/children pay for the hurt you feel. Some of you love to say, “You are just like your mother/father and I hate him/her. Most of you bitter people call yourselves, followers of Christ. Every Sunday you are sitting in church. Christ teaches forgiveness, but you teach your child/children to be as bitter as you. Truth or lie about their father or mother is going to make them unhappy. They are not going to have loving thoughts about you. Do not share bad experiences about their father or mother with them. Let go of all depressing thoughts. Love yourself and love will flow from you. Being kind and loving makes you taste how sweet heaven is… A wonderful safe day to you and yours.

Thanksgiving Day was beautiful

Lots of laughable moments with my sister —(best friend), bother-in-law, sisters-in-law, nieces, nephew and my family. We had Turkey, stuffing, pelau —(pilao), macaroni pie, collard greens, mashed potato, potato salad, spaghetti delight,  lasagna, geera pork, curry goat, Basmati rice, lemon pound cake, cookies, wine, beer, sorrel and soda. I am thankful every day but it was a wonderful day to say it and to spend it with people I love. I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving Day. I wish you the best. Enjoy and be safe.

“HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO YOU AND YOU~ AND YOU TOO”

“Drinking Driving~Road Rage”

Make this a HAPPY, SAFE AND ENJOYABLE THANKSGIVING.

Don’t let those two enemies over take your existence –DRINKING AND DRIVING AND ROAD RAGE. Before you succumb to these two evils think about the people you love and the people who love you~TO YOU, AND YOURS, FROM ME, AND MINES, Have a HAPPY, SAFE AND ENJOYABLE THANKSGIVING…

“On a softer note”

Some people does really play they mad oui. Well I does say, if you mad and I hit you on your head you suppose to rub your foot. If you rub your head, you are playing the ass.

And on that note, I wish you all a happy day. Enjoy and be safe.

“Stop And Frisk”

The first time this happened to my son he was 15yrs. To anyone out there he used to look like 12yrs. One morning while he was on his way to a 10:00AM college class at City Tech., two policemen stopped him, the moment he got off the train. He said they went through his pockets and his backpack. The questions started;

“It is 9:30AM! Why aren’t you in school?”

“I am going to school.”

“What school are you going too?”

“City Tech, 300 Jay Street.”
“How old are you?”

“15yrs.”

“You are 15!?”

“Yes.”

One of the officers found his college ID and the questions continued.

“Where did you get this ID?”

“From the college, when I registered.”

“We have to check this out.”

While all of this was happening my son said that he felt embarrassed because people were coming into the subway to wait on their trains. Also trains kept stopping and off-loading people. Everyone was looking at him. Some of them looked with eyes that were saying another African American did something illegal.

After they thoroughly searched him and found no illegal items, on him, but being black, they let him go. He arrived to class 10:35AM that morning, now he had to go through the process of explaining to his professor, why he was late for class…

Life in the United States of America is not a bed of roses for BLACK PEOPLE

I probably sound like a broken record, but my son is 24. It is scary to think about what each day will bring into his life. At a very young age, I told him, and it was sad to say, but it was the truth. You are an African American male living in the United States of America so there are strikes against you.

1. You are black.

2. You are male and.

3. If you don’t have an education.

You cannot change yourself, but you can make changes to your educational status. Go to school and get a good education.

When you go to the store, the workers in the store may shadow you. Ignore them, get what you want, pay for it; make sure you get a bag and a receipt.

If you are stopped by the police make sure they could see your hands.

Be aware of the neighborhood watch. He might be packing heat, and easily upset when he sees a black man.

Today I say to him and my daughter. When you at school your professor/s and or classmate/s might be packing heat. Don’t antagonize. Be careful…

The United States Of America’s shame. RACISM! They think it is hidden by the hood, but it is blatant in the black man’s face.

I pray for Michael Brown’s Parents and I empathize with them, because of the double blow they received — His death and his killer walks free.

Situations like these always have me bothered because I have a husband and a son —(Two black men, living in the USA). I worry about the gangs and the character/s who might decide to do bodily harm to them, but my biggest concern is the POLICE. Their sense of duty is to PROTECT and SERVE, but the majority of them HARMS and OPPRESS the Blackman.

“Ham and Rolls. I am getting set”

Ham

Yesterday I baked a ham but before baking I put it in a pot, filled the pot with boiling water to cover the ham, added 1 cup of brown sugar, 2 tablespoons of cinnamon, ½ cup clove then boiled for 1½ hours. I kept adding hot water to cover the ham. After boiling, I placed the ham in a baking dish, covered with foil and baked at 400º for 1 hr. Took off the foil and left in the oven for 15 minutes. I did my ham this way to cook and to make it low sodium. I served it with home made rolls.

My Rolls

I put 1 cup of warm milk that had I tablespoon of melted brown sugar in a bowl. Added one pack of yeast then I left it to rise in a warm place.

2 cups of milk, I stick of butter and 3 tablespoons of brown sugar in a pot on a low fire. Stirring until butter and sugar is melted. Do not boil. Cover and set aside.  

After 15 minutes, I whisked 3 eggs at room temperature then I mixed all liquids together, add 2 cups of flour, whisking until all lumps in the flour were dissolved. I added 2 cups of flour at a time, mixing with one hand. To make the flour the right consistency to knead (not sticky) I add more flour. I teaspoon of salt is needed for the recipe, but since there is salt in the butter I did not add any. The total amount of flour I added was about 12 cups. (Like I always say, “I do not follow any recipe. I always do my own thing) I kneaded the flour for 8 minutes until soft and smooth then formed it into a ball, grease the bowl and flour with butter. Cover then left it in a warm place to rise for one hour.

Pressed down raised flour, rolled out small balls leaving 1 inch apart in baking pan, cover with a kitchen towel, put in a warm place and left to rise for 45 minutes. Bake 350º for 30 minutes. Yummy.

“I am getting set for Thanksgiving. Marinate/Soak then Season Turkey”

If a turkey is not marinated/soaked and seasoned hours or days before it is cooked, it smells fresh like a snake. I get turned off by food that smells that way. This is how I prepare my turkey for roasting/frying.

1 submerge my turkey in a bucket filled with water that has; 2 cups of lime/lemon juice, 1 cup salt, ½ cup vinegar. Cover the bucket and leave the turkey to marinate/soak for 3 to 4 hours, depending on the weight. While the turkey is marinating/soaking I prepare my seasoning... Blend in vinegar, onion, lots of garlic, cilantro, scallions and ginger. I add salt and black pepper in the seasoning.

Take turkey out of the bucket, put into a bowl, in the kitchen sink and I wash outside and inside of the turkey, plucking out the feathers I find. I put the turkey in a baking pan then I rub the seasoning all over the outside, inside and even under the skin with the blended mixture, covered the baking pan and place it in the refrigerator to marinate/soak. I usually prepare my turkey 4 days before Thanksgiving, so my turkey tastes yummy.

“I love books so I write books about love for adults and books for children filled with intrigue.”

My daughter is reading the Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins and she wants me to read them. I read most of the books she and her brother read. Some of the books were very good and others were just good. Out of all the books that I read from their list of books, The Giver by Lois Lowry was very upsetting. It was a good book, very intriguing and mind-boggling, but I hated it because of the disturbing feelings it left me with. I am going to read the hunger games, and I hope it doesn’t creep, me out.

A wonderful safe day to you and yours.

It is better to be independent than to be dependent so I want to get rich. What do you want?

“What’s in a name?"

Lots of emotions are in a name. The intonation, the sound of that name says it all. Sometimes I hear a name and I say to myself, “His/her mother did not feel pain to make them. They named their child so they can feel pain. What the… Jesus!”

A name might be significant to the parent/s of a child, but how significant will that name be to their child? Name your child so that they would not be laughed at. Don’t selfishly name your child to suit you… Enjoy your day and be safe.

“On a personal note” “I hate pumpkin!

“I hate pumpkin! I tried it once and I did not like it! I am never going to eat it because I don’t like how it looks! Those were some of the words out of my children’s mouths. I did not say a thing, but I smiled.

One day in October, I got a very nice piece of pumpkin, peeled and cut it up in small pieces, put 8 cloves of garlic in a pot with a little oil, cooked the garlic until golden brown, added the pumpkin, two teaspoon of brown sugar, stir, put the cover on the pot then low down the fire leaving it to steam. Half an hour later the pumpkin sprang lots of water so I crush it up, mixed then I turned up the fire allowing the water to dry out. We ate it with Sada Roti, but my children ate Sada Roti with cheese, saying how much they hated pumpkin. The next day I decided to make soup. I filled a pot with water, put one cup of yellow split peas, one large onion, one tablespoon of salt and two dashes of black pepper. I let it boiled for an hour then I added small pieces of seasoned chicken, diced carrots and more water. Boil for 20 minutes, put in potato, dumplings and the rest of the pumpkin from the night before, which was about 2 cups. Cook until the potato was soft turned off the stove. The soup was a nice rice orangey color. We sat at the dining table and my children were saying that the soup tasted real good. They even took seconds. I wanted to say I am glad you all like my pumpkin soup, but I said, “Yeah, it tastes nice, real nice.”

“A story but true”

They started dating and everything was great. He did not say no to anything she wanted and she did not say no to him. She thought he was her everything and she was his. One day she was at a restaurant having dinner with friends when she saw him sitting at a table with a woman. He was holding her hands; brought them to his lips then he placed a gift rapped box in it. The woman smiled as she opened the gift.  

This scene played out like one she had been in with him. Her friends were all chatting and laughing so they did not see what she was looking at. She felt hurt and humiliated, but pretended to enjoy the conversation at the table, hoping that they did not see him. This was the man boasted about. The hurt she felt was on over ride when she got home. She couldn’t get him on the phone, but he eventually phoned her the next day. His excuse was that he was called out to work, his phone was not working in the area he was, he got home very late and he was tried.

“I saw you last night with a woman.” She detailed the clothes he and the woman were wearing.

“Oh damn! I’m so sorry. I am coming over.”

He came. Gave a speech about how sorry he was, it was the first time he went out with the woman, “She means nothing to me, I love you.”

Jennifer was angry, but eventually forgave him. After that incident everything was fine until one day she was at the right place at the right time and he was with the woman. She walked up to them with a happy smile on her face, but boiling inside.”

“Hi Gerald, this is a surprise.”

He smiled but his eyes were saying please don’t say anything as he said, “Hi Jennifer, this is truly a surprise. I would like to introduce you to my wife… 

Yes they are your friends and you probably have very happy times when you get together, but they are not your child/children’s friends. Remember to pay attention to your children and the company they keep. There are too many situations where children are being molested, mistreated by a family friend. I told my children when they were younger, that mom and dad’s friends are not their friends. If they ever feel uncomfortable in their presence let us know. I thank God our friends were friends in the truest sense of the word.

In the past couple of months, there has been many murders and abuse of children, by their mother’s boy friend or father’s girl friend.

Few men love and accept another man’s child. Few women love and accept another woman’s child. I have lived the GOOD, the BAD and the UGLY of this.

Men and women need to test the waters thoroughly before they put their child/children in the mix of their life with the so called STEPMOTHER, STEPFATHER!

“To those of you, who ride the New York Subway, please be on your p’s and q’s”

Do not stand near the edge especially to look down the track to see if a train is coming. A man pushed another man yesterday in front of an on coming D train, at 167 Street in the Bronx. The man died in front of his wife.

Please note that this DETRIMENTAL CHARACTER is still out there so remember to be on the alert.

Enjoy your day and be safe.

“Good Morning To You”

We were all born with a ‘GIFT …TALENT’! We sometimes look at the other person as they make the most of it, and we turn a blind-eye to ours, wanting theirs. Your ‘GIFT … TALENT’ lies dormant as you put your energy into taking the other person’s. Learn to love and accept who you are and what you have.

‘It only takes a little to make it big’.

When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you. ― Lao Tzu (604 BC, Zhou Dynasty)

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading. ― Lao Tzu (604 BC, Zhou Dynasty)

On this beautiful Sunday, I wish you the best life has to offer~ I hope today is a better day for you and yours than yesterday… 

“Sleep is a boss. When it hits you, you have no control over it.”

When you don’t have peace within you, your Spirit becomes restless. Your mind, body and soul are affected. Be truthful and do not say, “I couldn’t sleep last night and I don’t know why.”

Yes, you know why you couldn’t sleep. If what you were thinking about is beyond your control, do not worry about it. It doesn’t make sense worrying about things you have no control over. If you have power over it, you can fix it. Peace of mind makes you fall asleep as soon as your head hits the pillow. A wonderful safe day to you and yours.

Whatever good you have is all from God. Whatever evil, all is from yourself. — The Koran.

The life you live, good or bad will determine your future. Judgment day will determine your fate.

To see and listen to the wicked is already the beginning of wickedness. —Confucius (551 BC-479 BCE)

Keep your thoughts on the mistakes of the past guarantees that you’ll continue manifesting them in the present. Dr. Wayne Dyer

Your child/children make you talk a lot and they can get on your last nerve, but you have to be sensitive, kind and patient. In the end peace will be within and it is a good feeling.

Galatians 5:22-23. In contrast, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

I believe if you are having a conversation with your child/children, and they use slang or their diction is wrong, you should correct them. Be gentle in your tone when correcting. Eloquence is important in most cases. There is a time and place for slang, jargon, vernacular or colloquial speech.  Remind your child/children if they write how they speak, they will fail English.

I wish you and yours a wonderful safe day. 

“On A Personal Note… Cinnamon Raisin Bagels. Some people could raise your pressure oui… Only if you let them”

One day while my husband was on his way home from work, he saw a Dunkin’ Donuts so he went in. He phone and asked me what I wanted. I told him 12 Cinnamon Raisin Bagels and 4 Poppy Seeds Bagels. He placed the order and I could hear him saying it a second time to the person who was attending to him. When he came home, I opened the bags and there was 4 Poppy seed bagels in one bag and 12 plain bagels in another bag. I started to laugh and my husband looked at me.

“What’s wrong?”

“You have 12 plain bagels in one bag.”

“What!?”

“Yeah.”

“You heard me asked the woman for Cinnamon Raisin Bagels. Right?”

“Yeah. That’s why it is funny.”

“Thing to cuss about you does laugh, oui. I feel like taking them back.”

“Nah, doh raise your pressure. Paul and Sarah will eat them with cream cheese and grape jelly or I’ll grill some hamburgers. And that is that.” 

Intuition is the good spirit within guiding you to do it so do it and don’t live regretting not doing it… Enjoy your day and be safe.

“Veterans Day”

Today is Veterans Day in the United States. Every day should be Veterans Day. Special treatment should be given to them on a daily basis yet they have been ignored. They have been treated in the most merciless way after they put their lives in harms way for their country. It is late, but thank God President Obama put and is still putting many helpful things in place for them.

I salute all Veterans and their families. I hope today is a better day for them than yesterday. I pray that they get strength and courage to face the days ahead.

“Lots of hurtful people in this world”

Many people will attend a family reunion, see a member of the family looking like things are really bad, they know that they could help, but they prefer to discredit the person. Bad talk them.

“Did you see Jane? She’s looking real bad. Like she ketchin ol’ hell. —real problems.

“Yeah boy she ketching she royal ass oui. —really difficult times

“Lord she must be ketching; she aunt, she uncle and she nennen—(godmother) —hard times.

They will go on and on talking and laughing at their relative/s and to top it off they call themselves followers of Christ.

I hope today is a better day for you than yesterday. A wonderful safe day to you all.

“Blocking another person’s blessing”

An elderly friend taught me something of worth. I was doing something for her daily. To me it was no big thing. I did it with love and I enjoyed doing it. To her it was a great service and she wanted to bless me. She bought me a great amount of something that I like. I was happy to get the item, but I felt it was too much and I told her to keep some of it. She looked at me, said “hmm,” and shook her head. Although she did this I still kept saying it was too much. She said in the calmest tone, “Alli, when you give from the heart blessings flow and this gift is for you, with love. When someone give your something, just say thank you and take it. If you refuse it you are blocking their blessing. Do not block my blessing… 

“Happy Sunday to you and yours. Enjoy and be safe.”

If someone asks you for help and you can help, HELP! Do not help then start complaining that people are always asking you to help them? Complaining is going to block your blessings…

“Cruelty is now taking over REALTY SHOWS in America”

I do not like snakes. Even the bad fresh smell they give off makes me sick. When we were in Trinidad and Tobago in 2010, my husband, daughter and son went near the snakes. They even held one. I stood more than 100 feet away from them.

Eaten Alive is a new reality show that is going to be on The Discovery channel. The snake is fed a live human and then it is killed to get him/her out. Although I do not like snakes, I think that this show is sadistic. I could imagine how many snakes have already been killed to film this show. Animals are not allowed to live in their habitat. Why do humans believe that the earth is theirs and animals are infiltrating.

 http://www.discovery.com/tv-shows/eaten-alive

“The earth does not belong to us. We belong to the earth.” ― Chief Seattle (1780-1866)

“Today is another day, another story”

People will always say what you do. They will never say what they did and that is life. If they tell a lie about you, you cannot recover from it. Do not get a sleepless night about it. Just leave them to wallow in their guilt. A guilty conscience doesn’t need an accuser.

Enjoy your day and be safe.

This world has become very scary. There are so many creepy, sinister, frightening, eerie, scary, disturbing, spine-chilling, uncanny, weird people who walk the earth day by day, it is not funny.

Somebody or lots of bodies are hacking FB profiles, taking all your information  pictures etc., and they are creating another profile indicating that they are you. To all my FB friends, this is the only FB timeline I have. If I already accepted you as a friend then that is it. I am not going to send you another friend request. If you get another friend request from me, delete it as spam. 

Another day… Another story… My history is mine. Your history is yours…

You are seeing another day because you are reading this. God is saying to you embrace me I am with you… Breathe.

If you are not enjoying the day, thinking that life is not good and this is the end of the world, I am sending you a wave.

Do you know who started with the waving thing… God did. Enjoy your day and be safe.

“Blinded by stupidity”

An indiscriminate man is just like a crab… brainless. You will take care of a crab since it small and when it gets big it will bite you. A crab would be crossing the street and it sees a big truck coming. Instead of running back to the side of the road, it will stand in the middle of the road and open its gundy —claw, looking as though it will smash up the truck, but the truck rides over it smashing it... 

Nothing is more dangerous than a friend without discretion; even a prudent enemy is preferable. ― Jean de La Fontaine (1621-1695)

Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive. ― Havelock Ellis (1859-1939)

“Learn To Appreciate”

A friend invited me and two other friends —Dian and Joanne, to lunch. Joanne and I went… Dian couldn’t make it. The ambiance was very nice and lunch was delicious, but we had to sit and listen to Loraine gripe about Dian’s absence. She kept complaining, and I was getting upset. I rolled my eyes at Joanne. She gently kicked my foot and shook her head… for me to stop. I pouted my lips and opened my eyes wide then I smiled. We were doing all these antics, but Loraine did not see us because she was caught-up in her self-interest. I was enjoying the clowning around, but I knew if the gripe didn’t stop I was going to flip and I did. “Listen to me. You invited us to lunch, and Dian could not make it, Joanne and I did. Why can’t you be thankful that we came to grace you with our presence? You are insulting, selfish and disrespectful. Learn to appreciate who and what is in front of you.” 

“Her legacy of hate”

I know a woman. She hated me. She never told me she hated me, but she showed me how much she did. Her legacy of hate lives on. 

“The Rapture”

I wonder what became of the people who gave up everything that they owned because they believed the false prophets, who told them that the Rapture was going to take place, on particular date.  I remember meeting a man at Atlantic Avenue, Brooklyn, NY on the # 2 train. He told me that Jesus Christ was coming on November 21 in Jerusalem. I have to give up all that I have and move to Jerusalem. I said, “No one knows the date or time that Jesus Christ is coming even Jesus Christ doesn’t know. When he does come, the whole world would see him at the same time. I remember the last hyped up Rapture. This was predicted by Harold Camping (Born 1921- Died 2013). He looked as creepy as the words he spoke. My children were scared and they asked me how I felt about it. I said, “Neither here nor there. I cannot stop it, if it was going to happen so I am not going to get a sleepless night about it. I also don’t believe it. You should not stress over the things that you have no control over.

“I Love Pope Francis. He is human —Compassionately kind”

If someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge? We shouldn't marginalise people for this. They must be integrated into society. — Pope Francis


A person once asked me, in a provocative manner, if I approved of homosexuality. I replied with another question: 'Tell me: when God looks at a gay person, does he endorse the existence of this person with love, or reject and condemn this person?' We must always consider the person. — Pope Francis


An example I often use to illustrate the reality of vanity, is this: look at the peacock; it's beautiful if you look at it from the front. But if you look at it from behind, you discover the truth... Whoever gives in to such self-absorbed vanity has huge misery hiding inside them. — Pope Francis


Since many of you do not belong to the Catholic Church and others are non-believers, from the bottom of my heart I give this silent blessing to each and every one of you, respecting the conscience of each one of you but knowing that each one of you is a child of God. — Pope Francis


In our ecclesiastical region there are priests who don't baptize the children of single mothers because they weren't conceived in the sanctity of marriage. These are today's hypocrites. Those who clericalize the church. Those who separate the people of God from salvation.— Pope Francis


If one has the answers to all the questions - that is the proof that God is not with him. It means that he is a false prophet using religion for himself. The great leaders of the people of God, like Moses, have always left room for doubt. You must leave room for the Lord, not for our certainties; we must be humble. — Pope Francis

I got up at 4:30 this morning. It is a cold windy day in NY, but I thanks God for life. I hope your day is filled with love, peace and joy. Enjoy and be safe.

“Another Personal Note”

I love sitting at the dining table to eat our meals. Conversations are always hysterical. Last night at dinner, my children said that we never took them trick-or-treating, when they were children and they missed out on that part of their childhood. Their father chuckled.

I said. “Really!? We do not like clowns so if we saw one what would we do? Suppose the clown is a real creep wearing his creepy suit? The both of you do not like candy, so you were just going to take the candy then throw it away?

“We like candy,” They said.

“Yes, I know how much you do. I have been seeing a pack of Starburst about 8 months now in the fridge and a pack of Sour Skittles has been there since September. Every time I clean the fridge, I keep putting them back because I want to see how long it would take you all to eat them.”

“I am eating the Starburst,” Sarah said.

“Yeah I could tell. Two missing since it has been in the fridge.”

“I will eat the skittles,” Paul said.

“Yeah, I know that you may eat it by January, 2015. You both see why I never bothered with Halloween. I also do not like it.

“You guys should have still taken us trick-or-treating,” They both said.

“Why to spend the evening running from clowns?”

“No dad would have manners them,” Sarah said.

Hysterical...