I believe a batterer is living a traditional life. Someone battered them and the generational curse lives on. After the moment of abuse, a batterer, loves to talk to their victim/s, making statements to gain sympathy for themselves. “I did not want to do it, but you made me do it. I am sorry for what I did. I only did it because I love you, etcetera.”   

Many women are supporting R. Kelly and I think that they sincerely sympathize with him. I don’t blame them because I believe that is their tradition. You can break that ritual! Have a nice day and be safe.